Let me start by saying I hate my job at times but I love it more often than I hate it. Usually.
Being a mom sounds like it could be either really fun, and easy, or too much work for some. Well, some days are easy, so easy I almost think man I could have 10. Then there are your mediocre days, that keep you just on edge enough to say No dear sleep on the other side of the room! Then the bad days, the really rough ones that make you say Nope. Never again, and why did I even have a kid or kids in the first place? Makes you question your sanity and your mental stability and every choice you made leading up to that very day.
Most easy days are filled with relaxed, happy kids, not too clingy, playful but not rowdy and I can get quite a but accomplished as far as housework and errands and still have 32 seconds to myself to pee 2x in one day.
Medium days, one of the three kids is being trying, but I still manage to feed us, and get something done, I list chores in order of importance so the really important things will get done an the not so important ones can be done later.. Or sometimes never if it’s putting laundry away. 😂
The hard days, I don’t even want to talk to people who can’t say here have some wine! These days two or all 3 of them are being clingy, Whiney, trying, or just aren’t listening whatsoever and it’s pushing me over the edge because I have so many other things to do.
“Oh that must be so nice to stay at home with your kids all day.”
Uh what? Ok yes, some days it’s so so so nice. Others, not so much. I truly think day care onc day a week should be FREE and Manditory if your a stay at home parent. For our sanity!
I’m not just doing things for me anymore like feeding, dressing, washing, laundry for myself, dishes for only me, driving myself places, dr for myself, shopping for me, cooking for me , nope. I’m doing all these things X4! Sometimes x5 when you factor in the husband.
I’m wiping 3 other butts. 3 other noses. Keeping track of my food and drink intake and 3 others! I have to properly hydrate 3 other humans. I have to get all 3 checkups regularly, and don’t always have time for myself to get one.
And you know what, as much as these little beings annoy me and need me so much that I can’t breath sometimes, it’s ok. Because I chose to be a mom. I’ve learned to let a lot go. With 3 kids, you can’t keep all of them happy all the time, sometimes the yell, sometimes they cry, sometimes they push all the toys on the floor and lay in them an giggle with their feet in the air and all of these things are NORMAL.
I’ve learned not to let my job be about keeping them spotless, the house spotless, myself or my husband pleased, the toys from being broken, or the couch from having a few crumbs now than then! I can live with a few broken toys an crummy chairs and broken sleep because my Job is to keep my children well taken care of, loved, Alive and happy.
So next time you say to a mom, “control your kid” when all they’re doing is hopping around making silly noises minding their business, remember that it’s a child an that’s what children do. Or next time you scoff at the kid that’s banging toys all over the table or floor , remember they’re children and the toys are just object (theirs if I might add) and as long as it’s not hurting the child or anyone else that they’ll be fine and remember that their mom is doing their best, the child is alive and happy, what difference does it make if they broke a toy, or have sticky faces. They have a loving home and full bellies. Don’t make my job any harder than it already is. My job doesn’t need to have more expectations added. Just live an let live, love an let love.